Why do women flock to these blogs? To magazines showcasing glamorous movie stars? To television shows that depict a perfect life? My guess is that it's because all those things are the polar opposite of what real life is and that we are hoping that something will rub off on us.
Yep, "us", as in, the imperfect mothers. The ones who are just trying their best but fail in one area or another each and every day. The ones who continually compare themselves with the "perfect mothers".
When I was asked to do a review of No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage I jumped at the chance. It sounded like the perfect book for me!
I read this book in one evening. It flowed so nicely and kept me interested the whole way through. I love how it didn't just focus on raising children but also on housekeeping, marriage, and friendships. All things that mothers deal with.
It not only deals with our own insecurities but also how we are so quick to judge other moms (which, basically, does boil down to insecurity). Over the past few years I've learned to view other mothers with grace (the majority of the time, that is, I still have a ways to go!) because of issues in my own life. I can understand why a mother may have a short fuse out in public (maybe she's exhausted after a night with little sleep), why a house may look like a tornado went through it (morning sickness? time spent more in play with the children then cleaning?), messy children out in public (remembering an appointment last minute?), and so on.
I'm learning to understand. This book came at the perfect time because while I've learned to understand others I'm only now learning to view myself with grace. This book helped me understand how to do that.
Disclaimer: I was given this book by Moody Publishers for an honest review.
Soo true! lol! When I get the comment "I have no idea how you do it all" I just shake my head.. trust me, I NEVER "do it all". lol!! I think it's unfair to potray ourselves as "perfect moms, perfect wives, perfect friends, etc.. " as we really aren't. We do nobody a service when we act as though we have it "all". I'd rather keep it real! This book sounds great, thanks for sharing! :)
ReplyDeleteThis book actually goes into detail on how we mothers tend to perpetuate this "perfect myth". By not chiming in when a fellow mom is complaining (about her messy house, hyper kids, imperfect marriage, etc.). Jill went so far as to say to invite fellow moms over for a get together and let them know that you aren't going to deep clean the house or prepare a five course meal. You know, just a fun, good 'ol-fashion get together while keeping it real. Love that idea!
ReplyDeleteI'm def. gonna have to pick this one up!! It sounds wonderful!
ReplyDeleteThis book sound great! I can't help but wonder if a lot of those bloggers have behind the scenes help? How is there all this time in their day??
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Jennifer - they have to! Or else they are really, really good at photo shopping every picture because their houses and clothes are always spotless!!
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